You’re Engaged! What Now?! 16 Things To Do After You’re Engaged

January 8, 2016 at 5:04 pm (Uncategorized)

You're Engaged Now What

We are in the peak of engagement season, so if you recently entered the newly-engaged club or are thinking it might just be around the corner, congratulations! Check out our top 16 things to do once you’re engaged:

  1. First thing – pop the champagne and celebrate!

Guys – you just ENGAGED! Before you do anything at all, take the day/night to celebrate this seriously joyous moment. If you have family or friends who were in on the proposal, be sure to thank everyone for sharing in your big moment and soak up the moment!

  1. Call your friends and family

In the digital age in which we live, it is just about the most natural thing to want to share your joy online in 140 characters or less. Fight the temptation, though, and take the time to actually call (yes, you read that right!) your friends and family first. Not only is it proper etiquette and polite, but they’ll appreciate being in the know before your social media acquaintances!

  1. Get your ring sized and insured

If your fiancé already picked out the perfect sparkler, then head out ASAP to get it sized properly and insured. You’ll be showing that bad boy off quite a bit from now on, so make sure it fits securely. To get your ring insured, simply call your broker to add it your already existing home or renter’s insurance policy. You may need an official appraisal or complete other paperwork, but your broker can guide you on the process.

  1. Daydream with your fiancé

Set aside some one-on-one time with your partner to just daydream – what colors do you love? What ambiance do you envision? What are some of your favorite foods? What sort of feeling do you want your guests to have on your wedding day? Don’t make any plans yet – just give yourselves permission to dream big and talk!

  1. Set a budget (and create a savings account)

Weddings can be very expensive, so it’s important to establish your budget before any serious planning takes place. Make sure to include both families in the discussion if they will be helping to pay and ensure that everyone is comfortable with the decisions. If you and your fiancé are paying for even a portion of the wedding, considering setting up a wedding savings account and depositing a portion of your paychecks every payday. You’ll be surprised how it will add up, and it will help save you from reaching for the plastic! Just make sure to use it for wedding-related items only.

  1. Get organized

Once your budget is squared away, it’s time to start the real planning! Figure out a way to get organized, though, first. Use spreadsheets to track appointments, keep a binder of tangible items like swatches and clippings. Also, get that wedding Pinterest board made if you haven’t done so already! If you decide you want to hire a wedding planner, start sending out inquiries and choose a person who you can see yourselves working well with throughout the entire process. You and your fiancé can decide how best to keep yourselves organized, but make sure you have a plan in place.

  1. Assemble the perfect wedding party

You and you fiancé will have to decide on how you’d like to structure your wedding party. Is it limited to brothers and sisters, or will you include other relatives and friends? Do you want a large or small party? Flower girls and ring bearers? Just know that your wedding party is your choice – don’t feel that you must include your best friends from high school who you hardly speak to anymore if you don’t want to! If you’re looking for a unique, cute way to ask the members of your wedding party to stand by your side, a quick Pinterest search will yield a plethora of ideas!

  1. Take a stab at an initial guest list

You don’t have to set it down in detail quite yet, but you’ll need to have to at least have a rough headcount in order to seriously start considering venue sites. Every venue site has a maximum capacity, and most will have minimums that you must meet in order to book your date, too.

  1. Set a date and lock down your ceremony/reception venues

Whether you are planning to get married in peak season, in just a few months, or even if you are planning your wedding for a year down the road, it’s important to set a date and investigate your venue choices. Why should you lock down your venue first? To ensure you secure your date, and also because some venues (like The Willow Room) offer all-inclusive packages that might help you take care of other details such as catering, florist, DJ, lighting, and much more! Even if you aren’t looking for an all-inclusive package, your venues are the foundation for the rest of your planning. That all being said, it is perfectly okay to take your time deciding on when and where you’d like to get married! Don’t feel like you have to rush, and don’t let anyone else try to rush you into deciding either.

  1. Reach out to vendors you’d like to work with

Once your date and venues are set, now it’s time to add in all of the really fun details! Contact the vendors who you’d like to work with and let them know the date of your wedding and where you will be having your ceremony and reception.

  1. Start trying on those dresses!

Although it might seem a little bit odd, it’s important to have your venue planned before going wedding dress shopping. Your choice of dress will most likely depend upon the backdrop for your ceremony and reception – are you going ultra elegant, or more rustic casual? Again, feel free to take your time searching! They say you know it when you see it on, but don’t be afraid to take a dress on and off multiple times before deciding. Your dress is going to be in all of your photographs and videos for the rest of your life, so be choosy, enlist your bridesmaids for opinions, and try on and on and on!

  1. Create a wedding website or blog

A wedding website is an essential tool for you and your guests, especially if you’re having a reception with a lot of out-of-town guests. Include some of the items that make your relationship special – include a “how we met” page, photos of your proposal, your engagement portraits, etc. Make sure to include information and advice on the specifics of your big day, such as: wedding details, hotels, maps, and local sightseeing.

  1. Create a registry

This step may very well happen earlier on in your planning process depending on if you’re having an engagement party and/or if you’re being bugged about what people should buy for you. If you and your fiancé are already established and don’t want or need to create a traditional registry, consider setting up a savings account for something like a down payment on your future home or honeymoon that guests can donate to. Include the details in your invitation and on your wedding website!

  1. Plan your honeymoon

No one says that you must take a honeymoon after you’re married, but if you and your partner want to take one immediately after your wedding or at some point thereafter, discuss where you’d like to go, when, and for how long. Again, it’s important to set up a budget and come up with a savings plan, and be sure to check out multiple sites for deals, or consult a travel agent for packages and savings.

  1. Relax!

We’re going to level with you – wedding planning is stressful stuff, and there will be things that go wrong and things that will stress you out along the way. If you start to feel completely overwhelmed, give yourself a break by grabbing a latte, getting a manicure, leaning on the people in your bridal party for support, or all of the above!

  1. Set up a weekly date night with your fiancé

You’re getting married to the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Make sure to set aside time every week to just be together without talking about wedding planning; simply enjoy each other’s company and delight in being in love!


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